Encouragement words from How to be an Imperfectionist book - Stephen Guise

Introduction of the book : The new way to self-acceptance , fearless living , and freedom from perfection. 

This is best seller book ever.

It was written by Stephen Guise. 

 

Can you answer these questions by asking yourself first ? 

• Are you a person who is usually hesitate to make a decision and take a long time ? Or 
• Do you take so much time for preparation to do something ? Or 
• Do you usually feel depressed ? Or 
• Do you feel that you are useless ? 

If you will answer "Yes" in one of the questions, you are included in the group of people who want to be Perfectionist. 

We all want to be Perfect and love Perfectionism. But we do not notice about the bad consequences of Perfectionism. 

Perfectionism can conduce 

"Depress , Overthinking , Worry , Time consuming to do something and other problems as well"

The writer gives this doing exercise example to portray the character of Perfectionism

"For doing exercise , Perfectionist will consider the perfect place , the perfect time and specify the resources too. But if they can't find perfect place or can't have perfect time, they will not do exercise.

Actually, we all can do exercise in everywhere. 

Let's say that you are travelling by bus and sitting for many hours, that time you can stretch your arms from left to right and move your body. That's how you can still do exercise. 

Perfectionist usually fix the perfect time for exercise like before 4PM. If they are free after 4PM, they will not do exercise. 

And then he writes about Work 

"Perfectionist will not feel satisfaction even they finish tasks because they feel they are not doing good enough."

he includes about Goals

"Perfectionist will set lofty goals like reading 3 books in a month , reduce 10Kg within 4 months , raise income in a year. But if they can't reach those goals completely, they will not appreciate themselves for some progress." 

Why people are trying to be Perfectionist, base on ( 4 )facts 

1. Insecurity : They are just focusing on their weaknesses, so they try to be perfect on those areas. That's the reason they become turning to Perfectionism. 
2. Inferior : They have low self-esteem. They feel that they are lower than others, so they will try a lot to be perfect. 
3. Discontentment : They don't feel enough doing good, so they think that if they are doing perfect, they will be enjoyed in life. 
4. School education : Society uses measuring the skills by exams, so kids are also trying to get high scores and want to be perfect. They don't even know they become on the path of being Perfectionism. 

And he says

"Perfectionism is Poison."

Make sure to read this "How to be an Imperfectionist" book in detail, so that you will learn a lot and reflect yourself. Then, you can make progress for your life and will be unique person. 

(Note: I translate from my own language, so there will be some changes.)